Will You Let Them Try Again?
Your friend says, “I owe you an apology.” She is standing outside the café with her hands in her coat pockets. Three months ago you told her something private.
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For months, perhaps years, you’ve been looking at apartments. You know which window faces west, which kitchen cupboard never closes, and what the estate agent calls “cosy” when there is barely room to turn around.
You invite six people for dinner. There is a secondhand table, one chair borrowed from next door, and a casserole you have made twice because the first one looked suspicious.
The coat is still warm from the room you have just left. Your notebook is in your bag, and in it is a sentence that seemed to open a window: I can ask for what I need without proving that I deserve it.
The birthday plan begins innocently. Dinner somewhere lovely, one night away, perhaps a little surprise for the person who has always remembered everybody else’s birthday.
Your friend has sent a message you don’t know how to answer. It is affectionate in its first sentence, sharp in its second, and ends with “I hope you understand.” You understand several things, none of them comfortably.
The washing machine clicks off. A sock has escaped under the table.
The guests have gone. There are glasses on the table and a napkin under the sofa.
Your friend is standing in your doorway with a pot of soup. You are tired enough to feel the weight of your own face.
The music changes just as you’re about to leave. Someone reaches for your hand.
